Embodied Decision Making
“When we make pros and cons lists, we often try to logic our way into making a choice, completely disregarding our body and her inner wisdom.”
Yep, there’s inherent wisdom in your pussy or cock, and you should probably listen or they will absolutely defy your brain if they aren't in alignment with your choice. Hear me out...
There's relationship conflict. Logically, it makes no sense to continue relating to this person the way you have been. You decide to break up, because it just makes sense. Six days later, your heart is back in love and your sexy parts are wooed by all the juiciness, while your gut is saying “I’ll say I told you so in three weeks.”
How do we avoid that?
Consider the each following when assessing a situation:
Head
Heart
Gut
Sex
When we make pros and cons lists, we often try to logic our way into making a choice, completely disregarding our body and her inner wisdom. If we make a choice that dismisses her intelligence, she retaliates and demands to be heard... Just picture a very upset toddler that isn't getting her way. If she feels loved, respected and considered, your body is more likely to find alignment with the choice.
Give each of these aspects of yourself a voice. Speak or write as your heart, your gut or your sex. Try a free flowing of journal or talk to text. You'd be surprised what comes up when the words spill out unfiltered. Collect everything in writing so you can see it, then organize to make some sense of it. If these elements of ourselves have been silent for years, don't expect them to speak right away. Be patient, have compassion and seek assistance if you're blocked.
When you're done, let it simmer for awhile. Come back and contribute more, perhaps adding or subtracting the weight or importance of different aspects. Notice how each potential choice feels within each part of yourself.
Can you come into alignment?
Can you come to a choice that feels like it honours all parts?
Can you come to a higher ground where everyone's needs, desires and boundaries are met?
What does each part need in order for it to come into alignment? (With this question, challenge yourself to focus on the needs you can control within yourself to align, instead of automatically putting it on the other person.)
Which parts of you need to expand and grow? How will you develop these parts?
If we could simply use brainy logic for all of our decisions, they would be awfully simple to make. Our bodies often have the answers, long before our brains do anyway, so let them speak. Allow each fork in the road be an opportunity to sink deep into your body to seek the extraordinary wisdom. Let it be your guide.
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